O meni
Oduvijek sam bila zainteresirana za ljubavne odnose i način na koji funkcioniraju (ili ne funkcioniraju) te sam počela tražiti odgovore na pitanja poput Zašto je toliko teško da dvoje ljudi ima trajan, kvalitetan odnos? Koliko parova poznajem koji su dobar primjer uspješne veze? Budući da sam bila odlučna saznati više o toj temi, počela sam se razvijati profesionalno u tom polju. Odgovore sam tražila u brojnim knjigama i blogovima, motivacijskim govorima, podcastima, audio-vizualnim sadržajima i beskrajnim razgovorima o toj temi. Postupno su mi se počeli razotkrivati sa svih strana, a slika je postala jasnija:
- Naše su reakcije u svađi često uvjetovane traumom. Jednako tako, reakcije našeg partnera često su uvjetovane traumom iz prošlosti. Vi ste samo okidač, a ne i uzrok.
- Rad na odnosu nikad ne prestaje.
- Imate jasnu sliku partnera kakvog želite? Jeste li vi takvi? Ako niste, prvo te osobine izgradite u sebi.
- S vremenom postajemo sve vještiji u detektiranju i ukazivanju na partnerove pogreške, ali nam nedostaje objektivnost kad je riječ o nama samima. Kada i kako smo izgubili dodir sa sobom?
- Očekivanja su uzrok našeg nezadovoljstva: od partnera očekujemo da zna što mislimo, da nam čita misli i postupa u skladu s onime što mi mislimo da je potrebno. No, pitanje je uzimamo li uopće u obzir perspektivu druge strane?
- Jesmo li svjesni svoje mentalne mape?
- Znamo li živjeti u sadašnjem trenutku?
Accredited Break-Up and Divorce Coach Practitioner
Blazenka Hriberski
During an argument, past traumas can condition a person’s reaction. The same is valid for your partner’s reaction. You are just a trigger, not a reason.
Working on a relationship is a continuous process.
What kind of partner do you need? Do you have this in you?
We are getting more skilled in emphasizing our partner’s mistakes but we lack objectivity when it comes to ourselves. When and how did we disconnect from ourselves?
Expectations are the root cause of our unhappiness: we expect our significant other to know what we think, to read our mind, and act accordingly. Do we even consider other people’s perspectives?
Are we aware of our mental map?
Do we know how to live in the present?
Learning according to the world’s leading breakup and divorce coach,
Sara Davison
My personal experience with intimate relationship hardships and the long road to recovery, as well as its consequences, have inspired my development in the field of breakup and divorce. Also, the hurtful experience of broken relationships has prevented my friends and acquaintances from finding a way out of these traumatic experiences. I learned from my and other people’s experiences that in a state of complete breakdown, browsing the Internet does not provide desperately needed help but, instead, heartbroken people whose lives are collapsing need more concrete and practical advice.
In my research of various approaches and teachings, I came across Sara Davison UK, a breakup and divorce coach.
I decided to train at The International Divorce Coach Center and become an accredited coach assisting men and women after a breakup by applying Sara Davison’s principles.
